You cannot be everyone’s favorite!

Let it go...!!

Being practical and realistic, one thing which life teaches us is that we cannot make everyone happy; we cannot be everyone’s helpline; ultimately we cannot be everyone’s favorite. No matter how hard you may try but there is always a bunch of people who is unsatisfied with you. There will always be a few whose line of expectation you didn’t fulfill. Statistics claim that at the age of 16-22 you come across many temporary people and believe it or not these people hold the capability to influence our lives in their own ways; sometimes positively and sometimes in an extremely negative way.

You might encounter the pain of losing a best friend; the one you thought would always be by your side. This will teach you that you can also be the reason for someone’s unhappiness; just to remind ‘someone very close’. Such is the case, where you even play with your self-respect at times just to save that friendship but to no use. One day, you will have to accept the bitter truth that the person is hurt and it’s better to simply let go. Trust me folks, life is really unpredictable. They say the real test of friendship is when the person is there with you in the happy times but not in your bad times but on a genuine note, for those who can relate, it hurts even more when the person who was there to support you in your hardships is missing when you are really excited to share a good news. It hurts badly. Such an incident comes with a lesson that favoritism for you can vanish any moment. You get to learn that you cannot be an all-time favorite for even your loved ones.

Sadly this is not just limited to the so-called ‘friendship’ stuff. You can easily find ‘I-am-really-disappointed-with-you’ type people everywhere; in every kind of relationship you share. The root cause is ‘EXPECTATION’. Two persons start sharing a bond and then expect things from each other giving way to a bitter truth: - ‘Expectations are not always fulfilled’. Nobody is satisfied. People get hurt; knowingly or unknowingly and a void is created which cannot be filled. You spend months and years finding answers to questions like, “What was my mistake?”, “Did I do something terribly wrong?” At times the reason for which you are being punished is unjustified and at times the reason is not even known.

When precisely talking about love stories, a person can be hurt by getting NO as an answer but very few can relate that even saying that big fat NO is equally painful. Sometimes years of friendship is overlooked when just a minor incident takes place. This rips the heart into pieces. “You hurt people and you get hurt.” This is the law of nature. You get hurt when at times you are the cause of embarrassment for your ‘special person’. You get hurt when you don’t live up to the expectations of your parents or rather well-wishers and if there is nothing to get worried about, the wounds from your past will not leave your side. Eventually, all this will leave you shattered but then there is hope in the things unseen.

Life comes with many lessons, one of them being, “Don’t bother too much to be perfect because the right people will love the imperfect you.” Remember, you can be the ‘ray of hope’ for many but surely not for everyone. This reminds me of the famous quote, “You cannot have butter on both the sides of the bread.” To celebrate victory on one end; the other end has to face dejections. If you are setting things right on one side; the other side might get unhappy. Balance is too difficult to maintain. So, the best thing one can do is to stop stressing over everything. Get that “Shut up and let it happen” mode ON..!! Don’t interrupt the flow of life. Circumstances will change, things will be better because tomorrow there will be a new morning, a new day, a new beginning. Till then, smile J It helps.